They tell lies because they aren't living in the real world. They are living in a fantasy, a work of fiction, a stage play that they make up as they go along. They are just children playing "pretend." You are supposed to play along and pretend that their lies are true. Because they are the author of The World According to THEM, and you are supposed to follow their script.
The narcissist wants you to identify with the image he/she projects onto you. You are a mirror to reflect their fantasies, so they pressure you to behave as though it is real. Again just like the analogy of a child playing “make believe games like cowboys and Indians – when they say “bang bang” your dead – you best well be dead or else.
Unfortunately it is much deeper than a child throwing a temper tantrum. If you don’t play along with the narcissist’s game, they will react with such rage because you are breaking all their fantasy rules and they will completely remove you from the situation. They just don’t stomp their feet and walk off, they stomp on your life and then walk away. They manipulate you, lie, and even brain wash us to play along with such precision that we somehow believe that they are real – we even love them. Unfortunately narcissists do not connect with reality; appearances are all that matter in their world to cover that damaged child that lives inside of them.
An adult narcissist is pretending when they lie, substituting fantasy for reality, so they can be in charge of and control their imaginary world. Their lies are sometimes unnecessary and ridiculous, or damaging and destructive. The fantasy exists in every facet of their life and they do whatever they want no matter at what cost to anybody, even their own biological children – we are only objects or one of their fantasy playmates. THERE IS NO INTERNAL MECHANISM there to enable them to care, so they live in such an out-of-control world that they will betray ANYBODY for more and more supply – even destroy anybody that may reveal the truth of how disordered they are. Their lying is pathological and they filter it out by projecting their lies onto us and always find a way to make us out to be the “bad seed”.
They don’t reflect upon what they have done because they just don’t care and they are already off and running with their next and next lie – it is their way to achieve a means to an end, or a mask that hides the truth. They can’t face that they are damaged, even for a moment, or else their head would implode and their life would crumble before them. They are as deep into fantasy as a child with imaginary friends and we all have a role and that is to play along as “supply” or else. Their “pretend world” requires them to make us believe them so lying is their language. BUT, they have many playmates and many imaginary worlds. Unfortunately, like a child there is no real depth and all fantasy, and they will always come back to that one friend that always believes them with a new fantasy game so they can keep playing with us. Unfortunately it boils down to psychological terrorism because of the lengths they go through to control us and make us believe so we play along and they get what they want – it is abuse pure and simple.
Unfortunately it is much deeper than a child throwing a temper tantrum. If you don’t play along with the narcissist’s game, they will react with such rage because you are breaking all their fantasy rules and they will completely remove you from the situation. They just don’t stomp their feet and walk off, they stomp on your life and then walk away. They manipulate you, lie, and even brain wash us to play along with such precision that we somehow believe that they are real – we even love them. Unfortunately narcissists do not connect with reality; appearances are all that matter in their world to cover that damaged child that lives inside of them.
An adult narcissist is pretending when they lie, substituting fantasy for reality, so they can be in charge of and control their imaginary world. Their lies are sometimes unnecessary and ridiculous, or damaging and destructive. The fantasy exists in every facet of their life and they do whatever they want no matter at what cost to anybody, even their own biological children – we are only objects or one of their fantasy playmates. THERE IS NO INTERNAL MECHANISM there to enable them to care, so they live in such an out-of-control world that they will betray ANYBODY for more and more supply – even destroy anybody that may reveal the truth of how disordered they are. Their lying is pathological and they filter it out by projecting their lies onto us and always find a way to make us out to be the “bad seed”.
They don’t reflect upon what they have done because they just don’t care and they are already off and running with their next and next lie – it is their way to achieve a means to an end, or a mask that hides the truth. They can’t face that they are damaged, even for a moment, or else their head would implode and their life would crumble before them. They are as deep into fantasy as a child with imaginary friends and we all have a role and that is to play along as “supply” or else. Their “pretend world” requires them to make us believe them so lying is their language. BUT, they have many playmates and many imaginary worlds. Unfortunately, like a child there is no real depth and all fantasy, and they will always come back to that one friend that always believes them with a new fantasy game so they can keep playing with us. Unfortunately it boils down to psychological terrorism because of the lengths they go through to control us and make us believe so we play along and they get what they want – it is abuse pure and simple.
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